MARIA DE OCHO, HAS BEEN WITH US FOR NINE YEARS AND HAS FINALLY PURCHASED PROPERTY , PAID IT OFF AND HER HOUSE IS UNDER CONSTRUCTION .......
As a young lady 11 yrs or so she was lead to
leave her home in the hills of Chihuahua and come to Baja , ( cannot
recall why but it was not for good reasons ). She was with a cousin or
aunt working in the fields and met a man so of course joined with
him....got pregnant and he left .So there was a couple who came to her
rescue and she took them up on their offer to assist her with all the
comforts of a "loving" family. She worked along side of them and
then after the baby was born she was being checked out and they took the
baby and told her to meet them at the front door. She sat in front of
the hospital for hours, a day later she left after realizing they had
stolen her baby. So she went on ... working in camps and living the
empty life she had been dealt. She had no recourse but to continue,
bitterness I am sure set in on top of rejection, abandonment a gamut of
emotions I am sure .... ....
Then
she met another man ...... She did the best she could with no Jesus
nor any real love. The man was decent at first . Her oldest girl even
has fond memories and wants to go find him. (Her oldest is 18 now and I
may be helping her .). However, the babies came and I believe Maria
never really recovered. Then , a missionary couple tried to work with
her a few years when five of the children were young and beginning in
schools however the man became a drunkard and he did drugs and had women
on the side . Maria became depressed and barely took care of herself
much less her children.
Finally
Maria did some soul searching and accepted help from this couple who
offered her our home as an Out . Maria took it and
arrived
dirty, sad , forlorn and depressed plus her children were wild, dirty
and unkempt. That was the beginning , nine years ago. Her children
(then ages 9, 5,4,3,2) thrived under love and discipline. She began
to see hope and received the LORD AND SAW THE LOVE FINALLY.... Then
after a few months she decided to return to her pueblo and get her birth
certificate and to register her children ,none of which were
registered . So that was her priority
She
knew she was pregnant but did not tell us and asked me to care for her
children. So for 6 months she traveled back there and these children
stayed in my home . She arrived sad and without hope because she saw
what she came from and was not registered nor knew any way to change
this. We continued to encourage her and pray for her . She was doing
well working, saving and after the birth of her baby girl and was
finally seeing life with some hope but then all of a sudden she stopped
working and became sullen and withdrawn . We had no clue what had
happened, after months of encouragement and counsel she just stopped
everything and it seemed like she was just fed up . Depression was
filling her.
See she
was doing so well, then nothing. We knew something had to change so
we told her if she stayed she had to be actively working toward a
goal .. She got mad and left
You
can imagine the turmoil and emotions playing a part of accusing her ,
in this culture it is part of a woman's duty to be used by men. So I
will not go there so ...... the story continues ..then we heard that
twins were born but had been given up for adoption. This was a
shocker because she loves her children!! So .....
One
day I was at a missionary thanksgiving celebration and there was a
couple, new missionaries who were showing off their two adopted twins
and guess what? They were Maria's . I could tell as they were
duplicates of her other children!!!
I
backed off not really knowing how to feel. My children who kind
of knew the situation were gushing all over them and asking about the
birth mom and then adopted mom Karen realized who I was ( director of
the other shelter). She asked to speak privately with me and I
complied.
She
was troubled at how the adoption had happened and how quickly it
occurred. She had a check in her spirit and kept talking over and over
again about how she did not understand and how she loved her children
but still sensed something amiss So of course I was on it in prayer
wondering why she told me all this because I was not in touch with the
other home or the mom at all.
Then we
found out there had been some odd goings on and the home ( which was at
first a CC but had a change of leadership a few years ago and now we
are hearing it was going back to CC). After some time passed I was
at a CC missions conference in Murrieta and see the adoptive mom.
AGAIN. She is from Calvary too which I had no idea ......so she starts
talking and as it seems she is really bothered by the results of the
paper work and says please if you ever, ever talk to Maria and Maria
says she wants her babies please tell me ! I am shocked of course but
remain closed mouth! So while we are at the conference I get a call
from Cdp mom Nati (she is In charge when we are not home-you will meet
her if you come down ) telling me Maria is at the door and wants to come
back! I, of course, say yes but say nothing to the adoptive mom,
Karen.
When I returned
to Mexico I meet with Maria and welcome her seeing a vulnerability in
her I had never seen before. My heart was sad but I waited, seeking
the Lord as to how to deal with the situation.
A
few weeks later I was taking her to get some paper work because, due
to the birth of her twins, she was allowed to register her other
children and so we were working with this other ministry to get it all
done . It was my opportunity to ask her details. She broke and wept
and wailed. As it seemed the old director who was not there at present
time had pressured her by saying things like ..." The babies are of rape
you will not love them , you can not afford more children , you are
not a capable of caring for them etc.."... It was awful the things the
people who convinced her to give up her children said ( Praise the Lord
these people are gone now from that other shelter). I was praying and
comforting her then asked her the all important question... Do you want
your children back? She screamed, " Yes ! I love my babies! I do love
them and I want them back!" Through her tears she was a broken and
desperate woman! I immediately called the adoptive mother, Karen,
and she replied, "When do you want to make the change?" I was shocked
and amazed at the love shown through both moms!
So
within a few days we made arrangement and we are so blessed to see the
reuniting of moms Maria and her twins . They were 7 months old then and
now they are turning 7 years old in July! I am amazed as I write this
at the turn of events over 9 years so as you can see I want her to
succeed and to have a life of peace and love. At the present time she
is struggling with realizing her children are really sinners. They know
how to manipulate her to believe their twists and of course they are
always the victims ya know! So it is now with a 18 year old who loves
Jesus and the 15 and 14 year who are full of energy and
righteousness who thinksthey are justified in their own rights and
filled with self. Then she has a
hardheaded and bright child who is her little angel and then the
younger ones who see all the sinners doing their thing !!! Oh the
dynamics of this family is outrageous ! But. God loves them all and
each has possibility and promise that if directed to the Lord are going
to be ok. However it is difficult with the Mom protecting them and
taking a strong stance against truth as she thinks she is
protecting these sinners .... But we are seeing her maybe realizing the
truth and we will see what happenes. . Prayer and counsel is the
key!, So keep praying she really needs it
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